Do Feminists Hate All Men? Should They?

Todd
1 day ago
6 min read

Men, shut up and just listen, PLEASE.

Why can't men handle the word feminism without making it all about them?

Waaah, waaah, women hate me because feminis-- SHUT UP, SHUT UP, SHUT UP
- Women hate you because your personality is garbage, not because of feminism.
- You know, if you actually gave feminism a chance, you might get to finally kiss a real life woman.

Listen, I'm mad, I've been researching some gnarly stuff for this, but the whole point is: we are not mad at you. It is not about you. It is about the societal norms and historical actions that have systemically targeted women and children.

Y'all want to bitch and moan that feminists hate all men, but pretend like we don't have fucking good reason to.

We don't even hate all men, we hate Men.
Like, the concept of Men has gone too far. In theory, y'all are great, love my boyfriend, but in practice, y'all need some fucking work.

Here's where I am going to list some fun lil atrocities (fun-trocities, if you will) Men have done throughout the years:

Let's start with America's #1 rapist (or is he #2 now?):

Christopher Columbus!

This sexy motherfucking guy is clearly the ideal man. — This sexy motherfucking guy is clearly the *ideal man.*

Famous for raping indigenous women and children, enslaving, and trafficking them.
Was never even in America, was stripped of his titles and arrested in Spain after he was investigated, and yet, Americans revere him and gave him a holiday and shit their fucking pants if you bring up the hush-hush bad things.
- Why is that, guys? Hmm?

Or this sick French freak:

Dominique Pélicot

The fucking slime would drug his wife so that he and 50 of his buddies could rape her.
- Do you actually think these 50+ men are an anomaly?

Need I remind y'all:

The Donald Trump Files.

There is an entire class of people that get pleasure and literal money from the suffering of women and girls.
- And they're not alone in that. This isn't new.
  - Please listen to the women and girls in your life.

Are you so arrogant to ignore the testimonies and the suffering of femmes and AFAB people at the hands of men because it doesn't suit your personal narrative or experience?

Femmes and AFAB people are significantly more likely to be murdered by their intimate partner.

Y'all wanna say not all men, but what about the fact that every single fucking day 137 women and girls are killed by their intimate partners/family members?
Or that over 420,000 Americans from aged 12 and up experience sexual abuse each year?
- This is experienced statistically and systemically at a higher rate for women and children of color.

How do you expect us to know which one of y'all is "safe"? What are the fucking signs that you're a good one?

We can, of course, see that men are victims, too, but if you're the type to only bring up the victimization of men when discussing literally anyone else, then you're acting in bad faith, bestie.

But, let's talk about male victims, since y'all are so desperate to bring that up at every opportunity except when it's relevant:

Don't be all, look at all the queers and theys causing all that crime because you see that gray blob and think you're onto something. Unknown just means that the person's gender or sex is... unknown. — Don't be all, *look at all the queers and theys causing all that crime* because you see that gray blob and think you're onto something. Unknown just means that the person's gender or sex is... unknown.

Let's look at the victim stats and the perpetrator stats side by side. Gosh golly gee, who the heck is it that's hurting most of the people?

And... how exactly is it that you react when a man in your life tells you that he's been assaulted?
- Do you mock him?
- When the perpetrator is a woman, do you talk about how lucky he is?
- Or how it's not possible for men to be assaulted?

Feminism is for the boys and the men, too. You deserve to be heard, comforted, and safe.

Society teaches men to abuse us, to rape us, to use violence against us.

And they fucking love watching us suffer.

Our media makes the brutalization of women a spectacle to watch daily.
- Even The Handmaid's Tale, in the TV show adaptation, women and queer people are tortured and raped and it's on screen every single time. Is it necessary for the story? Maybe, maybe not.
  - Some of the best rape revenge shows feature no on screen rape at all and the story holds its strength (Promising Young Woman, for example) but it's rare when we aren't forced to watch horrible rape simulations.
    - Why must we constantly watch women get beaten and tortured for "character development"?
      - Who is that actually for?
  - The normalization of femme and gender non-conforming people being raped on screen makes it easier for people to swallow when it happens in real life.
    - It doesn't feel so out of place to watch suffering anymore, we've been desensitized.
Men raping and torturing women and children and those less powerful is ingrained into our society. I mean, it's the closest thing we have to "white culture," it's essentially encoded into America's DNA.
- Where was it in history that we lost the fucking plot and men were taught that to be a man is to dominate, rather than to protect?
- We never found the fucking plot either, which we get to see in real time with y'all defending pedophilia in the year 2026.

Also, why do men need to be reminded that women might even be... the people in their lives? Like, must we remind them of their mother, daughter, wife, etc. in order for them to give a shit that we're people?

Men will not save us. They won't give up their power over us willingly.

And even the best of men will continue to let us down and hurt us unless we actively do something to teach them. (You'd think they could've figured it out by now, there's probably a fucking YouTube about it.)

The patriarchy isn't going to teach Men to be better to AFAB people and they clearly aren't taking the time to learn to be better on their own.

Forced re-education time, am I right, ladies??

When I say that I hate Men, my partner knows that he isn't Men, he is a man, whom I love. Individuals are not responsible for societal or systemic problems, but each individual is responsible for what they do.

Do you call out your sexist buddies?
Do you participate in that harmless locker room talk, making "subtle" rape jokes?
Do you believe women?
Do you vote and spend your money with women and gender non-conforming people's rights in mind?
Do you oust your friends when someone makes a "credible" (eyeroll) allegation against them, or do you dismiss it because they've never done something like that to you?
What actions are you taking today that make you better than you were yesterday?
What sets you apart from Men?

When it's not about you, you don't have to defend yourself, you can just be quiet with the knowledge that it's not fucking about you.

If you feel the need to defend yourself over and over, you might be proving that it is, in fact, about you.

Now, I know I've poked fun at a lot of men here, but you as an individual are not the enemy or the butt of the joke. Knowing that it's not about you, I'm hoping, will help you to understand a little better.

Men are victims of the patriarchy, too.
- Y'all deserve better. Don't let some sex offender on twitter tell you that you don't.
We need to work together in order to thrive; lift each other up, and break down harmful traditions and systems that keep us divided.

Go watch that YouTube about how you can be a better man without the patriarchy, you got this. :)

*I am a gender non-conforming AFAB person, however I've found myself falling to heteronormative gender conformity in my writing and lumping femmes and non-binary people under the label "Woman".

I am trying to find the most comfortable way to write this all out without overusing the AFAB/Women/Non-binary/Non-conforming/Men/AMAB distinction, while not boiling everything down to man/woman labels, bear with me.*